Denial

Denial brings much confusion to the abused woman, an enervation of mind greater than any fatigue. It is an extremely misunderstood time and is the most criticized phase of her abuse. Denial is an act of self-betrayal. Denial lulls it's victim into a false security while the hard truth is like a slap in the face. Denial ensures her day to day survival.
Her dilemma is common. If she is honest with herself, she will recognize that she already knows the truth about her situation. Soon, she will come to realize and acknowledge that deep down, she knows what is best for her and her children. But instead of facing reality, she chooses to hide the truth from herself and others. The very truth that would set her free. It is safer that way. Or, at least, that is exactly what she has come to believe. An abused woman becomes very good at fooling herself. She minimizes the abuse and makes excuses for her abuser's behavior. It is best described as survival. As victims, we believe that bringing attention to this dysfunction, would only bring about more abuse. This fear engulfs us. It becomes the major player in this game of power and control. It is this fear, which causes us to stay. Denial feeds on this! If a victim of domestic violence can bring herself to finally face, recognize and admit the truth, she would give herself the gift of courage which will in turn enable change.